Friday ⭑ June 26, 2026

I received a job contract yesterday and I've been contemplating whether I'll proceed or not because this company "ghosted" me for about 2-3 months without any updates. Then they suddenly started spam calling my phone one Tuesday morning for an interview (mind you, I've already had my final interview and there were no prior emails or messages after that I needed to be interviewed again). And now the local branch manager messaged me today, asking if I received and signed the contract yet.

I just don't like how they're rushing me to do things now while they actually kept me in the dark for 3 months, giving me false hopes that "we'll send you the contract later, today!" then it turned to "this week" until weeks turned to months and several days and weeks have passed with 0 updates and 0 communication from their side.

And I'm kind of hesitant to actually proceed because:

1. the manager knows my dad. They were coworkers before she left, and it was my dad who initially introduced me to apply to them when they were looking. So when I missed a few calls from the HR because I was actually busy and unable to answer any calls, she proceeded to contact my dad directly (instead of leaving a message, asking for my availability), and my dad had to call me angrily, telling me that they've been trying to contact me.

2. I was told the open position available was more focused on admin and office tasks, so I immediately applied because it has always been my strongest suit. I only learned I was applying for a higher up position (which I have no interest in + I definitely am not qualified for) when the HR called and I was minutes before having a final intervew. So I had no choice but to proceed.

3. If I decline, I don't know how my dad and the manager would react, knowing that they know each other. But then again, if I proceed, I'm not entirely sure how much the manager will continue to contact my dad about my whereabouts and/or even my performance at work. And that's the thing I don't like. I always wanted and try to keep my personal life and work life separate. So knowing there's someone within the workplace is able to contact my family member anytime they want makes me uncomfortable.

After I was being fed with false hopes and being kept in the dark, I kind of lost interest and hope with it. I should have looked for more jobs, so I could politely decline the moment they were spam-calling me for an (unscheduled) interview. Not to mention, after the whole impromptu call, I was left feeling humiliated and uncomfortable too. The way the other manager was talking and asking me questions, and also the way he talked to me felt like condescending.

Honestly, I planned to write a response email by Monday. I wanted to get back at them for being so late at giving me updates, and just decline the contract overall. I already mentioned to my dad that I'm only waiting for the contract before actually responding to them, but I'm already unsure if I'd proceed or not. He will be disappointed at me for sure, but I don't want to experience the same feeling I had where I was dreading to wake up and get ready for work. But that's another story to tell. For now, I'll probably just think of a polite and professional way to decline.